How To Change Painful Feelings Into Positive Action (When Anger Hurts)

So this book, "When Anger Hurts" is saying that the angry person will most likely have high blood pressure, a stroke and or a heart attack? That is the messages that this book is sending me. Here are some of the questions: Are you angrier at work or at home? I am angrier at home because last year when I started volunteering at the center sometime around August, all I did was work and work hard. But if someone can refresh my memory, if I ever "acted out" on the job (volunteering) at the center. I need someone to confirm that I did not do anything over there but work hard and fast. Thank you.

Are you angrier with intimates or more distant relationships? Okay now is the time if relatives want me to have and or live with other "friends" or live with relatives the rest of my life. You decide what is best for me. Otherwise can I decide that for myself?

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Do you tend to feel angrier with authorities and parents or with peers? I tend to feel angrier with authorities and parents and peers. Why authorities? Because they don't understand whatever I may have.

Have a significant number of relationships been lost in anger? ahhh yes. way back when it was `93 or 94. and just recently at the end of July.

For me, the leading cause for my frustration/anger is negative thoughts. There are (i think) three kinds of trigger thoughts. 1) negative thoughts 2 ) blamers 3) shoulds

Both kinds of trigger thoughts have, as core belief, a perception of the other person as bad, wrong, and deserving of punishment. Think of something different that applies to you.

They deny me the chance to live independently dispite my frustration/anger. okay, I need others implications on this one. Please and thank you.

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So this book is basically saying that everyone wants me to feel the same way others do. People would like me to relate to them. Okay. Same thing applies for the other parts of my life. (well not my life--it is the life that was given to me. but I haven't yet paid back. Do they want to me to be around normal people and go about normal activities in order to feel comfortable around others to speak?

The moral of this book "When Anger Hurts" is to stay calm and be patient and things will happen.